I think you've made a bit of a logical/statistical misstep.
Primarily, the "1 in 100,000" figure is a bit misleading because it's not a statistic. It's an operational risk level threshold that's been set by SpaceX which triggers a preventative measure. It does not mean that SpaceX expects a collision every 100,000 maneuvers.
The 25,000 count of avoidance maneuvers simply indicates the number of times in that time period where the risk exceeded this factor, and then was corrected by the maneuver, because after this process, the risk once again drops to basically zero.
Perhaps the best way to explain this is with a counter example. You'd be correct if the lines went something like:
A new report revealed that Starlink satellites risked collision and did absolutely nothing about it 25,000 times in the six-month period between December 1, 2022 to May 31, 2023
SpaceX had previously stated that they define a satellite as "at risk of collision" if there is a greater than 1 in 100,000 chance of a collision with a piece of orbital debris or another satellite
Or, another example:
A pot of water is being boiled. If left unattended, there is a 99% chance of the pot boiling over. If it is attended, the pot will not boil over because the attendant is attentive and will remove it from the stove or turn it off. In this situation, the stove is constantly being attended by a vigilant cook.
Obviously, the chance of the pot boiling over in this scenario is not 99% because that doesn't include the fact that the cook is standing next to it. Sure, there still is a small chance (the attentive cook could suddenly suffer a stroke), but nowhere near as high.