Using Newton's Law of universal gravitation, we can calculate the gravitational force between those bodies.
The equation is (Note: I use "," to seperate digits into threes and use "." for decimals):
$$ F=G{{ M_1M_2}\over{r^2}}$$
Where $F$ is Force of gravity measured in Newtons, $G$ is Newton's gravitational constant and is equal to $6.67259\times10^{-11}$ $Nm^2/kg^2$), $M_1$ and $M_2$ are the masses of the bodies (in kg) and finally $r$ is the radius or distance between the centres of the masses.
So the Moon on average is 384,000,000 m away from the Earth, the mass of Earth and the Moon are $5.972\times10^{24}$ $kg$ and $7.348\times10^{22}$ $kg$ respectively. So let's substitute the values into the given equation.
Force of gravity between Earth and Moon: $$F = 6.67259\times10^{-11} {(5.972\times10^{24}){(7.348\times10^{22})} \over {384,000,000^2}}$$
and therefore, $F$ is equal to $1.98573\times10^{20}$ $N$.
Now onto the gravitational strength between Mars and Phobos. Mars and Phobos have a mass of $6.39\times10^{23}$ $kg$ and $10.6\times10^{15}$ $kg$ respectively. Phobos is 9380 km far from Mars. So let's substitute the values into the equation.
Force of gravity between Mars and Phobos: $$F=6.67259\times10^{-11}{{(6.39\times10^{23}){(10.6\times10^{15})}\over9,380,000^2}}$$
and therefore, $F$ is equal to $5.13683\times10^{15}$ $N$.
Now if we want to solve for $M_2$ (which is Phobos' mass) we need to rearrange the equation to solve for $M_2$ and substitute $F$ from equation 1 to equation 2 which was $1.98573\times10^{20}$ $N$.
So the new rearranged equation would be: $$M_2 = {{Fr^2}\over{GM_1}}$$ so let's substitute the values. $$M_2 = {{(1.98573\times10^{20})(9,380,000^2)\over{(6.67259\times10^{-11}){(6.39\times10^{23})}}}}$$ and therefore, $$M_2 = 4.09761\times10^{20}kg$$
Meaning if Phobos were at the same distance as it is now, it would need a mass of $4.09761\times10^{20}$ $kg$ to have the same gravitational force between it and Mars as between the Moon and the Earth. In other words, Phobos needs to be 38,656.7 times more massive than it is in reality.